Hoovering is the term used to describe a narcissist trying to re-connect with you after a time of separation. Often, this separation occurs after a time of silence between you and the narcissist. They need narcissistic supply to emotionally exist. They need to know that they are affecting someone, or someone hasn’t got over them. They tend to keep multiple sources of supply as backup. The “hoover maneuver” usually begins after the narcissist has left you and after a period of silence. They send you messages pretending nothing happened or use the pretext of a special occasion to make contact. It is very important not to respond to a hoover because it will reignite the cycle of abuseCycle of Abuse The primary model that has been offered for how narcissists abuse their partners More.