We’ve all been at a family gathering dreading that one relative. The one who does everything better than anyone else, who is always the smartest person in the room, and who is visibly jealous of most everyone else. Narcissistic rage makes the victims feel like they are constantly walking on eggshells. Well, what happens when they have a narcissistic rage storm?
What do you do if it’s your parent, your romantic partner or your relative having the rage storm at this family gathering and what is the fallout?
It’s very interesting to see who doesn’t clap for you when you succeed. Pay special attention to these people. They are incredibly jealous of you and they will purposely try to hurt you or at the very least show disrespect.
Know that people who suffer from Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) The hallmarks of narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) are grandiosity, a lack of empathy for other people, and More have a disproportionate reaction, this is not normal anger. Also, this reaction truly has nothing to do with you. You didn’t do anything to deserver it. These people are wired differently and they have a huge unrealistic sense of self-worth. They genuinely believe they are special and superior to other people.
Each situation and each narcissist are unique. However, there are some general do’s and don’ts to follow:
1. Attempt to engage in a logical debate
2. Respond with your own anger
3. Blame yourself
4. Apologize for your behavior
5. Mollify or appease them
Don’t do anything that escalates their rage. Remember that narcissistic rage is triggered by a Narcissistic Injury occurs when narcissists react negatively to perceived or real criticism or judgment, boundaries placed on them, More. Raising your voice or showing them they are wrong will only infuriate them more. When a narcissist rages, their cognitive thinking is impaired. They will never see logic. Never blame yourself for this situation. You can’t make someone act abusive towards you. Only they can do that for themselves. Apologizing or appeasing them only reinforces their bad behavior and that they are right and you are wrong.
1. Show your high emotional intelligence by staying calm and putting your safety first.
2. Set Boundaries are an imaginary line that separates me from you. They separate your physical space, your More
3. Seek support from other people who witnessed the rage storm for comfort
4. Empathize with them
5. Practice self-care
Emotional intelligence is the ability to recognize, understand, and manage your own emotions while recognizing, understanding, and influencing the emotions of others. Narcissists have low emotional intelligence. Maintain your calm by doing breathing exercises. Do not take their bait. Respond mindfully instead of reacting to their provocation. Everything narcissists do is to provoke a reaction out of you. Sometimes, the best option in this situation is to empathize with your narcissist. I know that sounds abhorrent but narcissists love it. It makes them feel seen and heard. This validation may even de-escalate the storm. Make sure to set boundaries.
Boundaries are an imaginary line that separates me from you. They separate your physical space, your More are your personal limits and rules. No one gets to tell you their wrong. It’s really important to have another witness’s perspective. Narcissists use Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation in which a person covertly sows seeds of doubt in a More to defend themselves and will definitely try to change the reality you experienced. An outside perspective can be very helpful against Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation in which a person covertly sows seeds of doubt in a More. Please don’t underestimate the effect this type of abuse and trauma has on you. Narcissistic Abuse is a form of emotional abuse projected by a narcissist on to another individual, Although narcissistic abuse More is unlike other forms of Emotional Abuse is an attempt to control, in just the same way that physical abuse is More. You need to address the trauma and talk to someone before it bleeds into all aspects of your life. Your nervous system has suffered too as you’ve been the victim of narcissistic rage.
Unfortunately, in family situations, sides will often be taken. The recollections of the events will be very different. Blame will be assigned. Remember, it’s never the narcissist’s fault and they are always the victim in their story. No one appreciates them and their Flying Monkeys are the individuals that a narcissist will recruit and then use to do their More will remind them that no one deserves them either. If you are their child, try to maintain some distance while they cool off. If you want peace with them, don’t challenge them. Stay on their script. Most importantly, talk to someone who understands what you’ve been through.
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