Power and Control Narcissism is almost entirely about gaining control over others. The narcissistic personality and its obsessive desire for control is not about control just for control’s sake, but an essential defense against the risk of receiving a narcissistic injuryNarcissistic Injury occurs when narcissists react negatively to perceived or real criticism or judgment, boundaries placed on them, More; a blow to the ego or self-esteem. Abusers use a combination of several different tactics to maintain power and control.