For those of you who think this is about one time when my father stopped speaking to me, it’s not. There were so many times. It was a pattern of behavior, his go-to punishment for me or anyone who didn’t stay on his script. There were dinners, car rides, sometimes for hours, special occasions, family gatherings, and holidays all ruined by his behavior.
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This one time, I agreed to meet him in Orlando for a couple of days before Thanksgiving. My husband and I had taken our daughters to Disney World and we would meet my father for 2 days and then drive together to my Aunt Liz’s (my mom’s sister) for Thanksgiving dinner and then fly home the next day. Well, it only took a little while for something to set him off. Thanksgiving morning, he wasn’t speaking to any of us. This includes my 2 daughters (his only grandchildren) who were 7 and 11 years old. We drove the hour and a half in silence. Then at my Aunt Liz’s, my father only spoke to her. He really didn’t like anyone else at the dinner. This included my mother’s brother, his wife and daughters, and my Aunt’s husband. Of course, my father wasn’t speaking to me or my family either. This made him sullen, and angry, basically his regular personality. I could feel the rage inside me. This wasn’t normal. Other people didn’t celebrate holidays like this.
Then my father drove the hour and a half to the airport the next day without speaking again. Until he missed the exit to get gas and then he got so angry at my husband. He decided it was his fault he’d missed the exit. Hard to advise someone when they aren’t speaking to you. My father raged. He slammed the door when he got to the gas station. Unbelievable.
People talk about what a nice person he was. What an incredible community servant he was. Well, trust me, you didn’t know him at all. And just because you knew him in that one-dimensional way doesn’t preclude him from emotionally abusing me for years. This is how mental illness works. This is how a personality disorder presents itself. He didn’t wake up one day different. This was a lifetime of manipulation, power, and control.
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